Caught Red-Handed in My Secret World of CNC Roleplay

I met her at a local BDSM meet-up. She was stunning and had an aura that said she knew exactly what I wanted to talk about, or rather, act out. We exchanged numbers, and the next day we set up a date, agreeing on a theme: Non-Consent (CNC) roleplay. It felt so real as she entered my home, dressed provocatively and ready to be 'commanded.' I had prepped for days, making sure everything was perfect. When she walked in, her eyes scanned the room, taking it all in, and I knew I’d hit a home run with the setup. We started slow, with light bondage and verbal play. But as we moved deeper into the roleplay, something inside me snapped. It felt so real that for a moment, I was worried she might not have consented, but of course, she was in control and loved it. How do you balance intense desire with real-world boundaries? Any tips or stories to share from similar experiences?