...So Tired of Playing It Safe...

Hey everyone! So there's this thing with my partner, Alex, that's been driving me nuts lately. We've been together for over a year now and everything has been pretty chill, you know? I'm the type who wants to spice things up sometimes, but Alex prefers to play it safe sexually... and let's just say, our bedroom life hasn't exactly been a whirlwind of wild passion. Last week though, I decided I had enough. We were hanging out at my place one evening, and we ended up talking about our future together. I was getting all excited thinking maybe now is the time to take things further, but then Alex brought up how they're not ready for anything serious yet. That's when it hit me that maybe it’s just not a big deal to them, like at all. I wanted to show Alex what they've been missing out on. So I planned this surprise little date night and tried my best to be romantic... flowers, candles, the whole nine yards. We got to talking again about our sex lives later that night, and I was getting more flirty with each passing minute. I suggested we could try something different just for fun, maybe some light role-play or even exploring a new position. But as soon as I brought it up... Alex went super cold on me. Just like the previous times when things get a little too heated, they shut down and change the subject. And there I was, feeling all hopeful and ready to push past those limits we've set for ourselves... Now, here’s where you come in. Am I being unreasonable? Is it fair of me to want more from Alex sexually when they’re not into pushing boundaries like that? How do I tell them how much it bothers me without ruining the relationship over something so personal? So yeah... anyone have any ideas on what I should do here? Or am I just reading too much into things and need to chill out a bit myself? Let me know your thoughts...