Still Processing It All

So I just broke up with my ex and it’s been a week now. We were together for over two years and things were great at the start, but lately she seemed distant. Turns out she was seeing someone else on the side for a while, someone who isn’t exactly her type, which made me feel even more weird about it all. She mentioned something about exploring different sides of herself, and that this person...well, let's just say they got into some very specific stuff together. I always thought I was pretty open-minded in the bedroom department, but there were things my ex did with her side piece that honestly gave me pause for a moment. Like one time she talked about tying someone up for hours and using restraints in ways I’d never tried before, like really restrictive stuff, beyond just your usual rope play. She said it was super erotic for both of them. I mean, hey, more power to her if that’s what floats her boat. But hearing all this did make me question how much we ever had left to explore together as a couple. I tried being supportive but...the thought of doing some of those things with another man just sitting there while I was the one giving in wasn’t something I could picture myself getting into, no matter how much I liked him. And now here I am, trying to figure out if maybe it’s time for me to branch out a bit more on my own too. Maybe see what else is out there that might excite both of us in our relationship going forward? Or should I just stick with the things we know work and not open up this can of worms? Ugh, my head hurts. All I really want right now is to figure out where I stand on this stuff before moving forward with anyone new.