did something that might have been a bit too much but idk

so i got this new thing lately. its kinda like exploring some limits and stuff. me and my partner have always been pretty open, you know? we talk about what we want and everything is consensual, so we decided to try out roleplay and stuff. it was cool, but last week we went a bit further than usual. my partner wanted to be tied up for the first time, which i thought was interesting cuz they never really liked that before. i got kinda into it too, wanting to play this character who is all about control and dominance. it started off slow, with me just touching them and making them squirm a bit. then we moved on to using some cuffs. the more we went on, the rougher it got. i kept telling myself it was okay cuz they were saying yes, but deep down something felt...off. we ended up doing things that maybe pushed their boundaries, or at least mine, in ways i didnt expect. there was this moment where i kinda lost it, going a bit too far and not pulling back like i should have. we finished, and afterwards they seemed shaken but still okay with what happened. so im left wondering if its me, being too intense maybe? or them just needing to process something heavy? idk man, feels weird thinking about it even now.