My First Time With Him Wasn't Quite What I Hoped For

I met Jack at a casual meetup for folks who enjoy role-playing various kinks and fetishes. From the moment we started chatting, there was an undeniable chemistry between us. We clicked over everything from our favorite books to obscure films, and then came the real test: talking about what gets us going in bed. Jack is almost ten years my senior, but I never felt like age was a factor for either of us. There's something magnetic about him that draws me in despite his experience being so much greater than mine. We agreed to meet up after a couple weeks of messaging back and forth, deciding on an evening date where we could explore some role-play scenarios. The night arrived, and I found myself nervous yet excited as I entered the apartment Jack had invited me over to. He welcomed me with a kiss that sent shivers down my spine. We spent the first part of our meeting getting more comfortable with each other through playful banter and light touches. When it was time for us to transition into the role-play, however, things took an unexpected turn. Jack laid out rules and boundaries which I agreed to enthusiastically before we got started. The scenario involved a power dynamic where he had authority over me during our intimate moments. But as soon as we dove in, something felt off. It wasn't just that he was controlling; it felt like there was no room for my own desires or comfort level within the setup. Despite these feelings, I tried to push through because I wanted this experience to work out. Unfortunately, it didn’t end well. The sex itself was...disjointed and lacked a connection on my part, even though Jack seemed fully engaged in his role. It left me feeling hollow and questioning what went wrong. Afterward, we talked about it briefly but neither of us could put our finger on the exact issue. Was it just a bad night? Did I misunderstand something major about where he was coming from? Or am I not ready for these kinds of scenarios yet? I'm reaching out here today because I need guidance or advice, am I being too sensitive, or should I have walked away earlier when things felt uncomfortable? How do you know if someone’s boundaries and expectations truly align with yours during role-play situations?