Confession of a Keen Kisser

Anonymous Reckless Wraith #307 · General

Hey everyone, I've been in a long-term relationship with my partner Jane for almost five years now. We're actually engaged and planning our wedding next year! Things have always been pretty good between us - we get along great, support each other through thick and thin, but there's this one thing that keeps nagging at me lately. Ever since I was younger, I've had a bit of a kink for kissing. Not just casual pecks or sweet kisses, more like deep, passionate makeouts where tongues are involved and lips are everywhere. Over time, as we grew closer, Jane and I started to explore this side of me together in the bedroom - it's been a real turn-on. The issue is that lately, when things heat up between us, I find myself getting so worked up about the kissing aspect that sometimes my partner ends up having to reign me back in. She tells me she loves how passionate I am but also says she's not as into heavy French kissing and deep makeout sessions herself. Which honestly is frustrating for me because it's such an intimate way of connecting. I want so badly to keep exploring this with her, but I'm starting to feel like it's unfair to push my needs on Jane if she doesn't share them to the same degree. But then I wonder if I should be compromising more here - is there a way we can still play into this fantasy of mine while also respecting her boundaries? Maybe there are other ways to express physical intimacy and passion without focusing so much on heavy kissing? Any advice out there from anyone who has had similar experiences with their partner, or just general thoughts about how to balance these kinds of desires in a healthy relationship would be super appreciated. Thanks for reading!