Falling Into Old Patterns Post-Divorce

I recently got separated from my husband after a long and tumultuous marriage. We both agreed that it was for the best, but the reality of being alone again has been more challenging than I expected. It all started when I ran into Jake, an old friend from grad school who I hadn't seen in years. There was an instant spark between us, like we were back in our 20s again, full of promise and excitement about life. We quickly started seeing each other, and it felt exhilarating to have that youthful energy return in my mid-thirties. However, the more I slipped into these new patterns with Jake, the more I realized how much they mirrored some unhealthy dynamics from my past. It wasn't until after a particularly intense night at his place when I woke up feeling like I was back in grad school again, alone and unsure about what I really wanted out of life this time around. Now, I'm left questioning whether these new connections will just bring old issues to the surface or if there's truly something different between Jake and me. The nostalgia is both comforting and alarming, but I know that to move forward, I need to be honest about where these impulses come from and what they mean for my future.