My Kink That My Partner Won't Share

I'm nonbinary and in my late twenties, and my partner's lack of interest in roleplay involving the idea of a strict authority figure giving me tasks to complete has been a persistent frustration. Last weekend, when we were trying something new, I pushed for him to be the bossy one telling me what to do, down to explicit directives about how to touch myself. He was uncomfortable with it, and let's face it, this isn't his thing at all. But damn if my body doesn't come alive when someone is ordering me around. So yeah, I ended up jacking off to him standing over me, hands fisted in my hair while he dictated every move of my hand on myself until I was dripping wet and begging for it. He tried to be supportive but couldn't get into the mindset I needed. It felt like a huge missed opportunity.