It's All About Consent Now

So here I am, a first-year law student who recently went through a divorce. It's been a wild ride but I'm feeling much freer now that I don't have to worry about pleasing someone else all the time. The truth is, after my marriage ended, I started exploring all sorts of things sexually. I met this girl online in one of those adult forums for people interested in more kink and roleplay scenarios. She's a few years older than me but we click really well. We decided to meet up in person, which was... wow. It wasn't anything like what I expected from an online encounter. We both agreed to play out some fantasies where I would be the submissive one, though it quickly turned into something else, something more real and intense. She's incredibly dominant but also caring in a way that's never been explored with me before. We do roleplay scenarios together, sometimes she’s my boss and I'm her intern. Other times it's like I'm being punished for making mistakes or I'm her naughty student. The level of consent is always clear though, we talk about what we want and don't want beforehand every single time. And you know what? It feels so good to be able to express myself without fear, knowing that everything happening is okay because both parties agreed. But here's the thing: sometimes I wonder if this intensity between us is too much. Or am I just feeling insecure since my last relationship ended and now every interaction seems amplified? Is it normal for me to crave such control from her while also giving up my own? Should I be seeking therapy alongside these new experiences, or are they simply part of my journey into adulthood? I guess the point is, I want someone's opinion on whether this intense play we have going on is healthy. How do you balance the kink with real emotions and boundaries in an adult relationship? What would you guys suggest to keep things fun but also safe?