Just Being Honest About What I Like

I'm an artist and lately, I've been really into a new guy at my local café. We hang out regularly, but nothing serious or exclusive yet. Recently, we went to a friend's party where there was some pretty wild roleplay happening, CNC, leather, all that stuff. He seemed intrigued by it too when we watched together, but he didn't want to join in. I got a bit turned on by the idea of him being the dominant one or even just wearing something edgy like suspenders and boots for me. We ended up hooking up later that night, but I kept things light and teasing since I could tell he wasn’t ready for anything hardcore. I feel conflicted because I think there's more chemistry there than either of us are willing to admit right now. Is it weird that after seeing all the roleplay stuff, I’m still fantasizing about him in a dominatrix outfit or being submissive with me leading? Should I try pushing things along towards something less vanilla or just keep playing cool until he’s ready for more? Or am I just overthinking this and should let things develop naturally? Thoughts?